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How does remarriage affect your child?

As you begin to navigate your life in Virginia after your divorce, you may start to think ahead to getting married again. While you may have found someone you love and want to marry, you cannot forget about your children. Adding someone new to your family will be a huge change. In some cases, it could be equal to the divorce in the impact it has on your kids. You have to take the initiative to ensure the new marriage does not affect your relationship with your children. 

According to, it helps to know what your child may be experiencing once you announce you will be getting married again. One of the top things is their fears about how this will affect their other parent. They may worry about hurting the other parent's feelings if they get close to your new spouse. Try to sit down with your children and your ex to talk about such feelings.

How can I cope with a difficult ex during a divorce?

Any Virginia divorce will be a tough situation for a couple. However, if you find yourself in a situation where your soon-to-be-ex is making things especially difficult, it can make the whole process even more tiring and upsetting. You may wonder how you should handle the situation.

The main thing is that you do not play into your spouse's actions, which will only make things worse. The Huffington Post suggests relying more heavily on your attorney to serve as a neutral party in divorce communications. The less you interact, the less likely it is your spouse can make things difficult for you.

Can a military family adopt?

Military families in Virginia may face many challenges due to the nature of military life. If you are looking into adopting a child, you may wonder if it will even be possible. The good news is that military families can adopt just the same as any other family. However, you will have some situations that require special handling. 

According to the Children's Bureau, the basic process of adoption is the same for military families as it is for non-military families. The main differences occur when you are deployed or stationed in a foreign country. You should always begin by working with a Military OneSource consultant. This person can help you navigate the process and work through any challenges.

When is the time to request a child support modification?

When you receive the final court order for child support in Virginia, it is important that you understand it is not actually permanent. You can request a modification later if a need arises. Modifications are allowed by law. They must be done through the court, though. If you try to modify your payments outside of court, between you and the child's other parent, then you will run into issues with the state, which collects fees on all your payments. 

According to the Office of Child Support Enforcement, you have a right to request a modification of child support if you are receiving or paying the support. The state automatically allows for a review of your case every three years. At that time, a modification may be made if circumstances have changed for either of you. 

Understanding the benefit of a postnuptial agreement

Like many of those in Alexandria City that we here at Jeffrey A. Vogelman and Associates have assisted over the years, you may have been so caught up in the love and affection you felt for your spouse during your engagement that the thought of your marriage ending never even crossed your mind (much less seeing the need to have a prenuptial agreement). Even now, the possibility may seem remote. So why consider delineating your personal assets at all? There actually may be a number of very good reasons. 

You might be thinking that this entire thought process is a moot point anyway, given that you are already married. Yet consider the state law defining the right for married couples to enter into finance and property settlement agreements. In Section 20-155 of Virginia's Code outlining domestic relations, it says that any such agreements between couples become effective immediately upon there execution. Notice how no mention is made as to when such agreements must be put in place. This opens up the door for postnuptial agreements. 

How to get through the holidays as a two-home family

After a divorce, life changes dramatically. The children have to adjust to two households. This can be challenging on a normal day, but when the holidays come around, it can become very stressful. It is tough to ensure everyone can have a good holiday celebration without any parent or extended family missing out on time with the children.

Operation: Parent suggests planning ahead well in advance to ensure the holiday schedule works for everyone. This includes mapping out who will be where and when. It means letting the kids know what will be happening so they can feel less stressed and more relaxed about the whole situation. Also, parents must be willing to be flexible. Not everyone will get the kids when they want them. It is likely compromises will have to be made. This is just part of the deal once parents divorce.

3 ways to divide the Thanksgiving holiday

The Thanksgiving holiday is just around the corner, and with that, it's possible that you're dealing with a dispute about how to handle your custody arrangements. It's difficult for a child to be in two places on the same day, and for your family, Thanksgiving is a day of significance. What can you do to make sure your scheduling works best for you, your ex and your child?

There are various parenting plans you can choose for the Thanksgiving holiday. Here are a few to consider in advance, so you don't have to argue about where your child will end up.

What to do when vaccinations cause co-parenting problems

Co-parenting after a Virginia divorce is not always easy. Parents often disagree on the different aspects of raising a child. One area where parents may find a major issue is when it comes to vaccinations. While the majority opinion is that they are good for children and society, some parents may be completely against vaccinating their children. If one parent is an anti-vaccine advocate and the other wants his or her children vaccinated, it can become a major point of contention.

In a divorce situation, the court assigns parental rights. Typically, both parents are given an equal say in how their children are raised. This includes whether they are vaccinated or not. According to NBC News, some parents may disagree over specific vaccines instead of not vaccinating in general. These cases can often be resolved easily through talking with the medical provider and getting more information about the vaccine.

How are military pensions handled in a divorce?

How are military pensions handled in a divorce?

Military life is never easy, but if you or your spouse is in the military and you are thinking about getting a divorce in Virginia, your life can become even more complicated, especially with regard to issues surrounding the military pension. The Virginia State Bar explains that the Uniformed Services Former Spouses’ Protection Act allows state courts to treat military pensions as marital property for purposes of a property settlement, but only in certain situations.

Alimony in a military divorce

A divorce can sometimes be more complicated if one of the spouses is in the military. Many Virginia couples may have questions about alimony and how it works for military families.

Although alimony is usually awarded in many divorces, it may be seen as a requirement when a service member divorces. The American Bar Association says that this is because the armed forces place a heavy emphasis on financially supporting military families. This means that if a state court does not establish alimony payments, the serviceman's branch of the military will usually set them up. If the military establishes these payments, the serviceman's rank usually determines the amount.

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